Or just date them
I sing a lot but I am off-key most of the time. I cannot play the guitar, piano or any other instrument. I can write song lyrics but I cannot make a legit song out of it. Thus, I am not a musician in any way but it’s safe to say that I do love music, as many of you may have already known.
And for some reason, I’ve always been associated with musicians. My first love was in a band. He played the drums, guitar and he also sang. He also wrote me songs when we were together — sweet and romantic slow rock songs. He was so good at melting my heart. He also wrote me songs when we broke up. The first one was still so sweet but sad. The second was full of bitterness. Haha. I am not sure if he is still in a band because we haven’t talked for a very very very long time.
My second real boyfriend was also a musician. He played the guitar and he also had a very good voice. He would always sing to me. He made me love Blink182, Mayday Parade… even Alesana! I made him listen to RnB songs. He’s not in a band anymore but music still plays a big role in his life. Sometimes we would just hang out in his condo with the music playing all day and night. I would sing to him so he’d fall asleep and he would smile because, I don’t know, maybe I sounded so bad. Haha! We listened to a lot of John Mayer and Lifehouse, some good RnB… and HipHop music that I failed to appreciate. I would always skip the annoying HipHop songs and then play Gravity by John Mayer or Take Me Away by Lifehouse because they are pleasant to my ears. Haha! It comes with age, I guess.
The last boy in my heart (we never dated) is also a musician and a very good one that. He plays the drums and sings. He is, by far, the best musician I fell in love with. Cheesy as it may sound, but yes, he’s the best musician I know and yes, I fell in love with him. But I guess we’ll never be together. Now that’s just unfortunate.
Well you see, it’s kind of fun and romantic to be dating someone who is passionate about music. So yes, there are definitely advantages of falling in love with a musician. Here’s some:
1 It’s sweet and cute when a guy sings for you even if he doesn’t seem to know the difference between a declamation piece and a song but it’s even sweeter if he can really sing. Playing an instrument while singing is a plus.
2 They appreciate life more. I’ve also been with guys who aren’t musicians and I can see that there’s a big difference between the two.
3 They are deep and most of them are hopeless romantic. That’s really really sweet and interesting. Enough said.
4 They can make sense out of everything. They are creative and have open minds. (see also: #2)
5 The music at your wedding will be prime and amazing, that’s for sure.
But it’s not all melody and sweet lyrics with musicians. There are disadvantages, too:
1 Groupies! They’re everywhere. Girls will always hit on him.
2 Some plans may be put on hold especially during weekends because that’s the prime time to play gigs.
3 He probably won’t get a day job. If you work during the day, it’s like you’ll be in two different places with different time zones.
4 They have trouble keeping time.
5 Drugs and alcohol. Sadly, most band members do drugs. And being in bars almost every night, some of them turn alcoholic. But this is just me stereotyping musicians. Sorry.
6 John Mayer.
But then again, who wouldn’t want to date rock stars? I know I would! I mean, I already have and it wouldn’t hurt try again. Here are personal tips if you are or just about to date a musician:
1 Befriend his band mates. Odds are, they have been in a relationship with him even before he met you. Do not take him away from them. Do not be jealous of them.
2 Act accordingly when you are watching his gigs. Do not act like a groupie. Maintain a certain level of respectability. Make him remember why he chose / should choose you over the squealing fangirls.
3 It is a given fact that girls get jealous easily but try not to be jealous when girls come up to him and commend him. You have to trust him.
4 Take good care of his instruments! His guitar or his old pair of drumsticks is his baby.
5 You don’t have to be in every gig.
6 Do not assume every song he sings is about you. He dated other girls before he met you. He has a life outside you. He has plans without you in it. So don’t. Just don’t.
7 Never make him choose between you and his music. He has been married to music even before he knew about your existence.
8 Understand and respect his love for music.
9 Support him all the way. Encourage him and let him know he is the best musician in your eyes.
10 DO NOT FLIRT WITH HIS BAND MATES. EVER. NO EXCEPTION.
If you think you can handle all of the drama that comes with dating a musician, then by all means go for it. If you think it’s too much, go for an accountant or maybe a programmer (ooops!). Now, if you really love his band’s music, go listen to them, learn their songs or whatever but do not imagine yourself to be his life partner because chances are, you won’t be for it takes a strong, self-confident, supportive and independent woman to date a musician. Trust me.
